Corn chowder and jalapeno sourdough for dinner. |
This week has been an absolute roller coaster ride emotionally. Parenting teens can be really hard work! Mr 14 is currently grounded for lying, over a myriad of issues. Sleep has been minimal because he has been unhappy with his punishment and threatened to leave home.
Apparently, he thinks moving out of home is a good idea and had organised to couch surf at different friends houses. No amount of talking to him from hubby and I would change his mind and he had packed a bag on Friday morning. This absolutely broke my heart. My son and I were always so close and the fact he would do this felt like a slap in the face.
I ended up calling his school and spoke to the principal, who agreed he needs to just suck up his punishment and offered to talk to my son. This must have worked because he came home from school on Friday with apologies for his behaviour.
Some days I feel like we are dealing with a war and it will all be a miracle if we make it out of these teenage years without battle wounds.
Despite this, I kept myself busy around the house and got some things done:
-Used the carpet sweeper and broom on the floors instead of vacuuming.
-Made some garlic aioli. We had this with leftover mashed potato patties for dinner and use it in place of mayo.
-Baked bread and butter pudding with leftover hot cross buns from the freezer. Also a double batch of choc chip biscuits.
-Hubby told me we were out of shampoo so I improvised and went through my bathroom drawer full of samples. I poured all the shampoo samples into a jug, mixed well and topped up with a bit of water like it is mentioned by Mr Homemaker. I poured it back into the empty bottle and now have a "new" bottle of shampoo! I did the same with the conditioner samples and this led on to cleaning out the bathroom cupboards, drawers and even soaking and scrubbing the hairbrushes. I got a bit carried away! Then I checked my toiletries stockpile, which was where hubby had "looked" and I found 3 bottles!
-Gave Miss 17 a haircut.
-I started making my first quiet book pages. When finished, the book will be a gift. Hand sewing has really helped with my anxiety too. Its a win- win!
-Had a "camp out" in the lounge room with Mr 10. We watched movies, made pizza pockets for dinner and set up the inflatable mattresses and sleeping bags.
-Saved rain water for the vegie gardens.
-Picked more kale and silverbeet from the garden. We have so much this winter. Luckily we love kale and eat it with most meals.
-Printed out my $60 vouchers from doing surveys. These are for Chemist Warehouse and will be used to buy our medication and vitamins.
-Hubby picked up some free bread and crackers from the op shop.
Also the lovely Mimi at A Tray of Bliss posted a comment I wrote to her and what follows is a wonderful post on making our days cosy, comfortable and creative. She also has some powerful advice on ways we can insource in our homes.
Hope you have had a great week. xx
Winter quiet book pages. |
Homemade garlic aioli. |
Using up some free samples. |
Free bread and crackers. |
Mashed potato patties, pumpkin and pan fried greens. |
Hi Mel,
ReplyDeleteso sorry to hear you are so upset about son's behaviour. Children can break your heart one minute and make you so happy the next. Remember it isn't personal, he is just a teenager finding his way, he needs you to set limits which you are doing. Think of the big picture, you are raising a future adult to be proud of, you are doing a great job. It is the hardest job being a parent. Don't forget to give yourself a pat on the back. I don't know if you have looked at a sight called Dr laura markham@ahaparenting.com. full of encouragement and good advice. Hang in there. Ann
Hi Ann,
DeleteThank you for your comment. It's just so hard lately which in turn makes me doubt our parenting. My hubby also tells me not to take it personally. It will all be fine, in the end I'm sure! I will check out that website. xx
Dear Mel,
ReplyDeleteThat school Principal sounds good. That is a help. I hope next week is much easier!
I love the way you added all the shampoos together and then had a bottle!
I have a fair few samples of different things so this is one I could do!
I do love your quiet book! This is something I would love to do! And also what we used to call Fuzzy Felts... you know... the board and the shapes to make pictures? I loved them!
Have a better week that is my wish! But you did really well with keeping things running and doing so much even under stress!
With love Annabel.xxx
Hi Annabel,
DeleteThank you. Those little sachets of shampoo are a bit annoying do deal with in the shower! I also did this with conditioner too. I figured although different brands they all have the same basic ingredients, right? You know what, it smells amazing :)I remember fuzzy felts, my kids had them when they were small. I have seen so may very detailed quiet books and that put me off. A friend showed me a basic seasons one http://www.marthastewart.com/272822/quiet-book which is looks easy! I have used some ideas from this. You could make one, for sure! xx
Parenting teens is tough, much harder than babies.
ReplyDeleteI raised 4. Somehow they are all productive successful adults though I sure had my doubts when things were in chaos.
My advice is pick your battles. Teens need to have some choices but some things must be nonnegotiable.
And just get them through it.
You can do it!
Hi Rhonda,
DeleteOh so much harder yes! I figure though that during the baby/toddler years it was tough, but now I look back and have forgotten the hard times and only remember the joy. Maybe the same will be with the teenage years? One can hope! xx
I agree with what folks posted above about teens. It is very hard on parents getting them through the rough spots. You are doing the right thing by letting him know what's expected of him and sticking with it. Hang in there! I'm sure he knows deep down in his heart that you love him and that's why you're giving him rules. He's acting his age by testing the limits.
ReplyDeleteHi Chipmunk,
DeleteThankyou, deep down he is a good kid and we've always been a close family. We have always given the kids consequences for their actions just like there are in the real world. He knows he has a good life, he just wants freedom. Which he can have after his grounding! xx